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Happy Valentine's Day!

How did it happen that their lips came together?
How does it happen that birds sing, that snow melts, that the rose unfolds, that the dawn whitens behind the stark shapes of trees on the quivering summit of the hill?
A kiss, and all was said.
~Victor Hugo

"Falling in Love" Versus "Rising In Love"

by Dr. Robert V. Gerard
(as of 15 June 2005)

There exists a major difference between the notion of "falling" and "rising" in love. She "falls" in love with him. He "falls" in love with her. This human constraint has virtually stymied mankind from civilization to civilization. Let's explore how "Rising in Love" can better serve you.

You can subconsciously become disempowered when "falling" in love. This occurs when the expectations or desires you have for another become subjective within the relationship. You virtually begin giving up your inner relationship with Self. You begin to forget what makes you unique and centered. I find this similar to falling from grace. When this occurs, you have the task of rekindling the spirit of true self-love.

You do this in order to regain your balance and perception of your unique Self.
"Falling" in love carries an accepted notion influenced by our society, movies, music, and soap operas. The term "Falling in Love" is traditionally welcomed. It diminishes your concentration on self in favor of potential expectation of what and how it affects another. There's absolutely nothing wrong with the process. It works to cause experiences that will eventually guide you to listen to your heart's intelligence. True love is heart-driven. Relationships affect the heart and are the instruments that generate experiences to make that happen.

"Rising" in love brings on the notion that you never surrender self-empowerment for another. You stay steadfastly centered in love with one's Self and keeps the highest integrity with your Soul. You remain centered in Self while creatively sharing and merging with the energies of another. Beauty in Self, and in the Self of another, are never lost or jeopardized.